Friends Again?

I got to go out to lunch the other day with an old friend. We used to be quite close, but life and times and work have driven us apart lately. Still, it was nice to see them. 

What I found funny was that they kept saying "they wished we saw one another more." I thought that was funny if only because I'm right here. Not going anywhere. Haven't gone anywhere. It's on them to make it happen. In fact I had been the one to invite them out for lunch or coffee multiple times, they had been the one who canceled on me all those times. 

I think friendships come and go. Sometimes the stars align, often they don't. If they do align, soak it in . . . cause soon they won't. 

Sarah and I used to meet for lunch and coffee all the time . . . cause we worked together so much. Now, nope, never. 

Same with Betsy, same with Alicia, same with Greg. But like I said, when they align soak it in, cause it won't last. 

I remember one friend always lamented, "I miss seeing you," so much I told her "just drive over . . . just pick up a phone . . . just invite me out . . . just engage." They didn't. I guess they'd rather just miss than do. 

If the past few years have shown me anything, about work, about life, about friends, it's to show me that life and work and etc etc is transitory . . . it's tissue paper thin . . . it's gonna melt away sooner rather than later. Friendships I thought would be strong as titanium turned about to be nothing but gossamer. 

I don't only blame them of course. It happens. I get busy too. But I do blame my friends when they don't even try as hard as I am. And that's when I cut them away and move on.