More On Priorities

A while back, I wrote about priorities… And I think I want to expand on that just a bit more.

Terms of self-authorship one of the more important things I've learned is about ill-structured problems. The world is filled with ill-structured problems. And earlier I also wrote about ill-structured people. Basically what I meant by that was there are people out there who create  . . . by their very nature . . . ill-structured problems. I coined the term ill-structured people and I hope I can trade the market and make some money off of it very soon.

I've also authored the terms . . . "complifiers" and "complify." A play on the word simplify that I'm still stunned hasn't gone viral yet. 

Regardless the idea is taht there are no binary solutions. The world is not black-and-white  . . . it's filled with grey. 

For example… How do you solve the drug problem? Someone who is not self author would say you make drugs illegal. The problem with that is do you make all drugs illegal? What about alcohol? What about dealing versus just using? What about using a lot versus using a little? What about using a different state are in different times?

I'm going to conflate this with another series of posts I really like which is about time management and priorities. I've always said that I don't like people who say they have no time. I have a full-time job . . . two children . . . a part-time job . . . I write novels . . . I just finished all of my classes toward my PhD . . . I'm also writing a dissertation . . . Still, there are very few times I would ever say I don't have time for you if you are a friend. 

I've known people who have far fewer responsibilities, who tell me they don't have time. I'm thinking of one person in particular, who has far less "typical" structure and framework in their lives as I do and yet they tell me more often than not that they have no time. 

What they really mean is I have no time for you. 

Or I have no time to be friends with you. 

But . . . that's fine . . . not everyone can be friends all the time. But if you tell me you don't have time… You're really telling me that I'm not important enough to you.

Again, I get it you don't wanna be friends just say the word… I have plenty of other things to do than sit around and wait for friendship just to occur out of thin air. Friendship takes time… It takes support… It takes effort… It takes both sides trying… It also takes very good timing… But mostly it takes putting people on your priority list.

I wrote about old friends a while, back and people calling me and wanting to go to lunch or coffee and in almost every case… Actually,I will say every case … My common response to someone asking me to go to coffee or for lunch after I haven't seen them in years is to say, "sure, when?"

I can't think of the time I said nope sorry too busy. So again it cracks me up when someone tells me they're too busy.